Days after Corey’s breakup, a photo of her ex wrapped in the arms of another woman goes viral on Facebook. Confronted with this gleeful boast about “happily ever after,” Corey, a forty-something lesbian, decides that she can’t live in a state of perpetual loneliness, plagued with the burden of her own failure in finding happiness and love.
Armed with her meticulously crafted checklist, Corey embarks on a mission to heal, move on, and find “the one.” But no matter how many items she checks off her list or how faithfully she follows the sage wisdom of psychics, her breakup coach, and the legendary rapper Eminem, her hope in finding her one true love begins to fade away—until she’s suddenly torn between two.
Now, with her heart unexpectedly on the line, Corey must find out what she really wants—and where her true happiness lies.
By Corey Seemiller
“Fiercely honest and at times hilarious. The only messy way I want to read about a healing journey.”
– Gabrielle Stone, Bestselling Author of Eat, Pray, #FML
“The Soulmate Strategy is a raw, insightful, and important book about what it really takes to rebuild your life after heartbreak. Through humor, honesty, and hard-won wisdom, Corey Seemiller invites readers into her year-long journey from devastation to self-discovery, showing that healing isn’t about finding “the one,” but about finding yourself again. This isn’t a fairy tale about love, it’s a real story about courage, clarity, and the messy, beautiful work of starting over. The Soulmate Strategy reminds us that every ending holds the possibility of an empowering new beginning.”
-Sarah Prout, Bestselling Author of Dear Universe
“I love love loved this book. It’s raw, hilarious, and so freaking relatable. Corey lives out loud while she just brings you with her through the mess. If you’ve ever ugly-cried in your car or questioned your entire worth over a breakup, this will make you feel seen in the best way while providing the hope you need to make it through the day. The Soulmate Strategy is the book you can read instead of obsessively googling how to get over your ex.”
-Dorothy, Breakup Coach + Host of The How to Get Over Your Ex podcast
“In this real, raw, and laugh-out-loud honest memoir, Corey takes us along as she navigates heartbreak, the search for her soulmate, and her classically Virgo Soulmate Strategy. From psychic readings to speed dating, she tries it all, and with every awkward encounter, hopeful misstep, and hilarious experiment, we feel like we’re right there beside her—cringing, cheering, and laughing through it all. It’s messy, unpredictable, and completely relatable: a truly wild ride through love, life, and the sometimes outrageous quest for ‘the one.’”
-Bethany Nicole, Astrologer and Relationship Expert
“The quest for love is Universal, and readers of this book will find themselves enthralled with Corey’s journey while reflecting and maybe even healing their own. It is heart-warming, engaging, and an honest look at what it takes to move through heartache and be ready for your soulmate.”
-Cassie Parks, Money Manifesting Coach
What Prompted My Journey
Despite having experienced widespread professional success, in 2021, my long-term relationship came to an abrupt end, sending me into a tailspin. My efforts to analyze, organize, and micromanage my way from heartbreak to healing resulted in the writing of my memoir. Thus, while everything else in my life was going to plan, my love life was chaotic, and my Type A, Virgo, perfectionist self tried voraciously to get control so I could move on and find “the one.”
What Drove Me to Write the Book?
As a lesbian, I know first-hand that there are very few books that validate the life experiences, relationships, and heartbreak of women who love women. I know because I was on an endless search for them when I was suffering heartache. When my seven-year relationship came crashing down, I was left scrambling for anything that could help me feel in control. I needed information, validation, inspiration . . . whatever would make the pain subside and allow me to move on and find love again. I binged podcasts and audiobooks, but nothing fully reached me. So, I chronicled my heartbreak to healing journey as it was happening. Writing this book as my life unfolded was wholly authentic, raw, and unscripted, leaving me not knowing the ending until I felt that the story reached what felt like its natural destination. My hope is that my story inspires readers to love themselves, missteps and all, as they go through or reflect on their own journeys from heartbreak to healing to the possibility of love again.
Who is This Book For?
Most people want to move through heartbreak and find lasting love. And, many, including me, would do just about anything to make that happen. For those reading this book while suffering heartache, I want them to feel like they aren’t alone in their desperation to gain control of the ambiguity, unpredictability, and confusion surrounding their situation. Maybe, through my journey, they can see that all of that is simply part of the healing process . . . even with the best laid plans. While not every reader will be in the midst of heartbreak or on a search for love, I hope that all will feel connected to my experience and validated in their own past healing journeys, as they navigate my sadness, hope, angst, embarrassment, absurdity, and joy. When the reader turns the last page, I want them to feel hopeful, inspired, and affirmed in that healing and finding love is never a direct journey, and that underneath that quest is often happiness hiding in plain sight.
Release Date
Stay tuned! The Soulmate Strategy: My Imperfect Plan to Conquer Heartbreak and Find True Love is set for release on February 10, 2026 through She Writes Press. Find out more about pre-orders at Simon & Schuster.
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