Have you been on the apps, only to be catfished, ghosted, or even just overwhelmed with the lack of compatible matches? Have you been stuck on a virtual speed date where the four minutes ticks away like hours? Have you commented on a post in some online lesbian book group, hoping your match is out there reading what you are? You aren’t alone. I’ve done all of these things, and they are tiring, soul-sucking, and have not led to forever love! Frankly, they haven’t for most lesbians I know.
I believe there is a better path to love, and I’m about to embark on a journey to find out . . . not just for me, but for you too.
My name is Corey, and I’ve decided to go on 50 hiking dates with 50 women in an effort to find an energetically compatible, soul-level love match. And, I want to take what I learn from this experience and share it with the lesbian community to help us all be able to make meaningful life-long connections.
Why Am I Doing This Project?
To Help Reshape Modern Lesbian Dating
What we’ve been doing with swiping, posting, and commenting online can lead to true love for some; but, not for everyone. And, with AI, trolls, bots, bathroom selfies, creepy profiles, and pics from 10 years ago, the online dating world can be treacherous.
We have to do something different. So, here’s where my zany idea comes in. There are three unique parts to it:
Vetting
Everyone who signs up to go on a hike with me will first be vetted by a friend. She may see a great possible match with someone I might have otherwise scrolled by, or she might catch an incompatibility with someone I might have ignored because I’m enamored with a cat picture on their profile. I have to trust her judgment as to who would be a good match for me.
Actual Dating
Once vetted, my friend will set up the date for us. Having only one date with each of the 50 women will help me slow down so I don’t jump into a relationship with the first person. What if #47 was my soulmate, and I never ended up meeting her because I was too busy nesting with date #1?
Meaningful Activity
Then, we’ll go hiking. For me, this is a far more connective activity than anything else. I find peace, solace, and freedom in nature as well as great adventure, as I love conquering the challenges of the outdoors. And, nature is my sacred space . . . perfectly suited to see if I have a magical connection with someone!
Combining friend vetting, dating (not becoming exclusive, moving in together, or jetting off to tie the knot with the first viable human I meet), and doing an activity that holds deeper meaning for me, might just create the right conditions for me to find that person!
Let’s see if it works!
To Motivate Others to Put Themselves Out There
Another outcome of this project is to inspire and help others!
Those who actually go on a hike with me might find that they learn a whole lot about themselves and what they want in a future partner (and maybe that’s me!).
But, others, even if they don’t participate, could be motivated to put themselves out there in the dating world in a creative way too – like setting up their own 50 coffee dates or simply leaning into the ”a-has” I share about my experience on this journey to make their dating life better and smoother.
To Meet Amazing People and Maybe Even “The One”
I believe in destiny and serendipity . . . soul connections and “when you know, you know” . . . big love, deep love, and forever love. And, I’m committed to finding it, not just for the sake of this project but because I’m an optimist and truly believe “my person” will be amongst this group of 50 women. How could she not be? You are here reading this, and you are likely pretty awesome.
What Will I Do With What I Learn?
As the co-host of Rock That Relationship!, a podcast about manifesting the relationships you want, and author of the forthcoming book, The Soulmate Strategy: My Imperfect Plan to Conquer Heartbreak & Find True Love, I am committed to sharing what I learn with others as a way to provide insight, guidance, and even just encouragement and support.
To do this, I plan to write a book about this journey, sharing ideas that could reshape modern lesbian dating and re-engage so many that have simply stopped out of dating altogether.
Second, if I had a dollar for every time I heard that we should have a lesbian version of Love is Blind, I’d be rich. So, let’s do it. Going on 50 hiking dates is not quite Love is Blind, but it will be a fascinating foray into a new way of dating. I plan to share footage in some type of online video series where viewers can follow along with my journey and meet some of the extraordinary women who offered to go on it with me. Perhaps our collective wisdom and experiences can help others as they navigate the dating world.
Intrigued? Great!!!
First, check out information about me and what I’m looking for to see if we might be a good match. If you think so, email Tracy Wood at 50firsthikes@gmail.com to sign up. Everyone who signs up will have a short video call with her. She will then coordinate a hike time and location for those who she thinks would be a good match for me. Then, we’ll meet up for a 1-2 hour hike.
Find Out More
If you are up for the adventure, email Tracy at 50firsthikes@gmail.com.
Click here for more information about me.
Click here to find out more about what I’m looking for in a match.
I know all of this sounds a bit over the top. But, if you want a bold life,
you have to be bold. I’m up for the adventure. Are you?